One Day.

I hope that one day I can accept that a part of me will always be insecure, that I will always be private, slow to warm up, cautious before leaping into anything. I hope that one day I can accept that I will have awkward moments, that I’ll say things that make me wince, and…

More than My Mental Illness

If you have known me personally (or have been reading my blog), you’d probably know that I live with mental health challenges. Since I was very young, I’ve always been a neurotic and anxious child. It hasn’t left me in adulthood. I suppose I am what most people would call “high-functioning”: I experience seasons of depression and…

The One Who Wants You Present

Have you ever wondered if anyone would notice if you fell off the grid? If your presence truly mattered? If your whole self — your thoughts, your being — was valued? Have you ever felt like a puff of smoke that people walked through rather than a human being standing in a room? Have you…

The Fruits of Singlehood

There’s a lot of emphasis on vocation as either ‘married life’ or ‘religious/consecrated life’, or an emphasis on vocation as being something off into the future — which it is. But our vocation is also active here and now, and the one vocation that all people are required to go through first is singlehood.  We tend to…

Dare to Be Different (Pt. 3): Unique by Necessity

Now I can’t pretend to be an X-Men expert, but I saw the most recent movie X-Men: Days of Future Past and loved it. Weirdly enough, I actually cried during that movie — more than I did with The Notebook. I cried because I was incredibly moved by its themes. In a strange way, I could relate to the…

Dare to be Different (Pt. 2): Burdens to Blessings

We humans are funny creatures. We know we should be seeing the glass as “half full” rather than “half empty,” but we still gravitate towards the latter. We focus on how far we still have to go rather than acknowledging how far we’ve come.  We count others’ blessings rather than seriously dwelling on our own….

Dare to Be Different (Pt. 1): Embrace Who You ARE

One of my biggest frustrations in life is being misunderstood — and surprisingly, it happens OFTEN. I’m not just talking about “misunderstanding” in the lighter sense (such as being unable to articulate myself clearly). I’m talking about being misunderstood in the deeper sense — with things related to the core of who I am and what…

(Self)Compassion: No More Nagging

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogs One of the strangest things I’ve realized lately is how much of a “nag” I’ve been — not to others, but to myself. It’s how I get things done. I nag myself until I finish a task or fix what needs fixing, like an internal alarm clock that keeps ringing…

5 Ways to Kiss Perfectionism Goodbye

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogsI never took the possibility of being a perfectionist seriously, never really considered myself as one. But after putting a ridiculous amount of effort on school assignments last week that weren’t even worth much to begin with — especially at the expense of my own happiness, well-being and personal goals —…

Disney’s "Frozen": Top 3 Lessons on TRUE LOVE

The Disney movie “Frozen” captured my heart for SO MANY reasons — good music, cute story line, lovable characters — but what I loved most were its LESSONS. Seriously. Good job, Disney. If you haven’t watched it yet, WATCH IT. It’s the kind of movie that speaks to every woman, regardless of our differences (at…

Some Battles Must Be Fought More Than Once

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogs  Have you ever looked back at your life and realized that despite how much you’d grown, some things still needed repair? That although you’d changed over the years, there were still some things you never stopped struggling with, fears you’d never gotten over? Have you ever realized that problems you…

Living in Abundance (Part 1): IDENTITY

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogs It’s so easy to get caught up with negativity that we never take the time to celebrate the good stuff about life. But with Thanksgiving coming up (at least for those of us in Canada), I thought it would be fitting to start a new series on “Living in Abundance”…