The Truth About Healing

Well, I suppose it’s safe to say that I’ve done what most people can’t do. I let go, when most people would latch on. I leaped and I did, in fact, fall. I let go and I did, in fact, lose. I consented to having my heart broken, knowing full well what I was getting myself…

Lessons from Europe: A Culture of Encounter

There I was, sporting the signs of a typical North American: Coffee in a to-go cup. Laptop open. Headphones plugged in, tuning out the rest of the world so I could focus on meeting tight deadlines. Game face on, I was implicitly communicating to everyone around me: “This woman means business. Do. Not. Interrupt.” But…

The Fruits of Singlehood

There’s a lot of emphasis on vocation as either ‘married life’ or ‘religious/consecrated life’, or an emphasis on vocation as being something off into the future — which it is. But our vocation is also active here and now, and the one vocation that all people are required to go through first is singlehood.  We tend to…

Kintsugi Heart

Kintsugi (金継ぎ) is the Japanese art of fixing broken pottery. Rather than gluing the pieces back together in a way that conceals the cracks, Kintsugi makes the cracks even more visible by filling them with lacquer resin mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum. This results in a metallic design that runs across the surface of…

Meaningful Encounters

I am often afraid of what I need the most. Intimacy is one of them. And I’m not just narrowly talking about ‘romantic’ intimacy. I’m talking about the kind of intimacy that all human beings need to function: a slightly higher degree of closeness, trust, and vulnerability with certain people.  While I’m definitely working on…

Relationships: An Investment You’ll Never Regret

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogs Valentine’s Day might seem like a cheap marketing trick designed to make singles feel worse about themselves (and maybe it is to some degree), but it also reminds us of something simple yet profound: that all relationships, romantic and non-romantic, are truly worth celebrating. We need people. This seems obvious, but ‘independence’…

Disney’s "Frozen": Top 3 Lessons on TRUE LOVE

The Disney movie “Frozen” captured my heart for SO MANY reasons — good music, cute story line, lovable characters — but what I loved most were its LESSONS. Seriously. Good job, Disney. If you haven’t watched it yet, WATCH IT. It’s the kind of movie that speaks to every woman, regardless of our differences (at…

Living in Abundance (Part 5): RELATIONSHIPS

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogs First of all, sorry for being SO LATE with writing a new blog post! I’ve been tied up with my own personal life, but HERE WE ARE FINALLY: the last week of this 5-part “Living in Abundance” series. As the title suggests, this post is about RELATIONSHIPS — how the…

Lessons Learned from "Penelope": LOVE YOURSELF

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogs  I fell in love with the movie “Penelope” for several reasons: 1) It starred James McAvoy <3, 2) It was funny, and 3) It was cute, lighthearted, and fairytale-like. At first, that was all I saw in it — just a cute movie, with a cute story, and a VERY cute…

SINGLENESS: Curse or Blessing? You decide.

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogs  I’ve written quite a bit on the type of love that’s worth waiting for, but one thing needs to be clear: singleness isn’t just a stage to prepare for a relationship or marriage (though it can be, provided that marriage is your vocation). Rather, it is much more; singleness carries a beauty and…

Friendship: the Gift of Witnessing

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogs “We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things… all of it, all the…

"THE LIST": Top 6 Things Women (Should) Look for in Men

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogsTHE DREAM … Women long for intimacy and connection. It doesn’t matter where it comes from–a friend, family member, boyfriend/husband–the fact remains the same: we yearn for someone to share our lives with, someone who’ll witness us at our lowest points and also times of celebration, someone who’ll understand our hopes and…