Category: Love and Relationships

Free to Love (Part 2): Beyond Reciprocation

This blog post is a continuation of Free to Love: Reflections on Fulfillment & Validation. Why are we afraid to love? I suspect that it's not so much love that we fear, but unrequited love — love that goes unnoticed, unrecognized, unacknowledged, or unreturned (and I'm not just talking about romantic love). It's human nature to ...

Free to Love: Reflections on Fulfillment & Validation

I am no stranger to the aches and pains of yearning to be loved. Even though we're often told to be fully satisfied in God's love, many of us still yearn for that human kind of love, the genuine connection between two people to walk together as companions in life. But it is a danger ...

To Love is to Be Vulnerable

I've never been an open book. I've always been guarded, never wearing my heart on my sleeve, "opaque" rather than "transparent," and fairly difficult to read (at least that's what I've been told). Yet despite being reserved, I still believe that allowing myself to be vulnerable and to share my life with others (even if it's just a few ...

The Truth About Healing

Well, I suppose it's safe to say that I've done what most people can't do. I let go, when most people would latch on. I leaped and I did, in fact, fall. I let go and I did, in fact, lose. I consented to having my heart broken, knowing full well what I was getting myself ...

Lessons from Europe: A Culture of Encounter

There I was, sporting the signs of a typical North American: Coffee in a to-go cup. Laptop open. Headphones plugged in, tuning out the rest of the world so I could focus on meeting tight deadlines. Game face on, I was implicitly communicating to everyone around me: "This woman means business. Do. Not. Interrupt." But ...

The Fruits of Singlehood

There's a lot of emphasis on vocation as either 'married life' or 'religious/consecrated life', or an emphasis on vocation as being something off into the future -- which it is. But our vocation is also active here and now, and the one vocation that all people are required to go through first is singlehood. We tend to overlook ...

Kintsugi Heart

Kintsugi (金継ぎ) is the Japanese art of fixing broken pottery. Rather than gluing the pieces back together in a way that conceals the cracks, Kintsugi makes the cracks even more visible by filling them with lacquer resin mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum. This results in a metallic design that runs across the surface of ...

Meaningful Encounters

I am often afraid of what I need the most. Intimacy is one of them. And I'm not just narrowly talking about 'romantic' intimacy. I'm talking about the kind of intimacy that all human beings need to function: a slightly higher degree of closeness, trust, and vulnerability with certain people.  While I'm definitely working on ...

Relationships: An Investment You’ll Never Regret

Valentine's Day might seem like a cheap marketing trick designed to make singles feel worse about themselves (and maybe it is), but it also reminds us of something simple yet profound: that all relationships, romantic and non-romantic, are truly worth celebrating. We need people. This seems obvious, but 'independence' and 'individualism' are so prized these days ...

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Disney’s "Frozen": Top 3 Lessons on TRUE LOVE

The Disney movie "Frozen" captured my heart for SO MANY reasons -- good music, cute story line, lovable characters -- but what I loved most were its LESSONS. Seriously. Good job, Disney. If you haven't watched it yet, WATCH IT. It's the kind of movie that speaks to every woman, regardless of our differences (at ...