Category: Coping with Change

Challenging Your Assumptions and the Need to Predict

In an effort to minimize risk, we all have the tendency to predict possible outcomes and plan accordingly. To make these predictions, we can't help but draw from past experiences and preconceived notions of the world in order to keep ourselves safe. And this is not always a bad thing. Predicting and falling back on ...

6 Quotes to Welcome the New Year

It's New Year's Eve! For some people, reflecting on the past year gives them a feeling of triumph—they've made great strides, accomplished important goals, and overcome many challenges. But for others, reflecting on the past year can feel wearisome, filled with regret and disappointment. Here are some quotes to help you look up instead of ...

10 Lessons I’ve Learned from the Past Year

December is usually the time of year when people get a little more introspective, reflecting on the past year and all the lessons that came with it, in preparation for the New Year. So here are 10 lessons that 2015 has taught me. Hopefully they resonate with you. 1. Be solution-focused.  Some people are naturally ...

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Moments of Impact

My theory is about moments, moments of impact. My theory is that these moments of impact, these flashes of high intensity that completely turn our lives upside down, actually end up defining who we are. The thing is, each one of us is the sum total of every moment that we’ve ever experienced with all ...

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CHANGE? Grow Where You Are Planted

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogs  You know the popular saying: "When one door closes, another one opens." Yes, that can be true. But sometimes reality feels more like: "When one door slams shut in your face, you are then shoved or forced through another one ...whether you like it or not." That's the funny thing about ...

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LIFE’S MIRACLES: From Water into Wine

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogsLast weekend I took part in a conference for my church youth group called CFC-Youth. The theme was centered around the Wedding at Cana, when Jesus turned water into wine as his first miracle. We were taught to recognize the ways in which Jesus had metaphorically turned our water into wine -- ...

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Dealing with Life’s Unpredictable DETOURS

Follow this blog on Twitter @reltalkblogs"If you accept your misfortune and handle it right, your perceived failure can become a catalyst for profound reinvention." - Conan O'BrienWe always strive for direction. We want life to progress in a linear fashion, to get exactly what we want when we want it. We make goals for ourselves and ...

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Spring Cleaning Your Life (Part 1): LETTING GO

Follow this blog on Twitter @realtalkblogsAhhh Spring has arrived--the season infamous for goal-setting and "fresh beginnings", sort of like the second chance after failing at New Year's Resolutions (jokes!). But now that the weather's warmer and the flowers are blooming, it makes sense that we want to be synonymous with nature: we crave for growth and ...

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Letting Go of "Yesterday", Appreciating "Now"

Follow this blog on Twitter: @realtalkblogs Things CHANGE. Sometimes we crave it, other times we're afraid of it. Numbing routine makes us want something new, yet other times we want familiarity, for something stable to cling onto. Especially when memories from the past seem more attractive than the present, our longing for familiarity becomes stronger ...