One Day.

I hope that one day I can accept that a part of me will always be insecure, that I will always be private, slow to warm up, cautious before leaping into anything. I hope that one day I can accept that I will have awkward moments, that I’ll say things that make me wince, and…

Life Lessons from Latin Dancing

It’s only been one month since I started taking Latin partner dance classes (like salsa, bachata, and Brazilian zouk), and I’m surprised by how restorative it’s been for me. At first I thought I was simply learning something new—taking up a hobby to sneak in some physical activity after work—but it ended up being so…

To Love is to Be Vulnerable

I’ve never been an open book. I’ve always been guarded, never wearing my heart on my sleeve, “opaque” rather than “transparent,” and fairly difficult to read (at least that’s what I’ve been told). Yet despite being reserved, I still believe that allowing myself to be vulnerable and to share my life with others (even if it’s just a few…

Is Complacency Masquerading as Productivity?

“When you waste time, you disdain God’s gift – the present – which He, in His infinite goodness, relinquishes to your love and to your generosity.” – St. Padre Pio Have you ever spent consecutive weeks jumping from party to party, movie after movie, or going out every night – only to come home feeling oddly…

More than My Mental Illness

If you have known me personally (or have been reading my blog), you’d probably know that I live with mental health challenges. Since I was very young, I’ve always been a neurotic and anxious child. It hasn’t left me in adulthood. I suppose I am what most people would call “high-functioning”: I experience seasons of depression and…

With Every Broken Bone, I Swear I Lived

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to catch up with a friend and fill each other in on the past two years of our lives. Before then, I’d been so busy plowing through the days that I hadn’t realized how far I’d come. It was only after hearing the stories that were coming out…

Not Feeling the Christmas Spirit? Try this.

Most of us don’t want to be downers during Christmastime, but sometimes we can’t help it. Work deadlines get in the way. Final exams stress us out. Malls get insanely crowded and Christmas parties feel like a chore. Sometimes we lose touch with friends and can’t help but feel their vacancy. Other times we experience spiritual dryness and feel abandoned by…

The Truth About Healing

Well, I suppose it’s safe to say that I’ve done what most people can’t do. I let go, when most people would latch on. I leaped and I did, in fact, fall. I let go and I did, in fact, lose. I consented to having my heart broken, knowing full well what I was getting myself…

Winter Solstice: Lessons on Healing and Recovery

I live in one of the darkest places in the world. Vancouver gets less sunlight per year than many places on this planet (that is, according to Google). As I was observing how late the sun rises and how early it sets these days, I was relieved to find that the Winter Solstice (the shortest…

6 Quotes to Welcome the New Year

It’s New Year’s Eve! For some people, reflecting on the past year gives them a feeling of triumph—they’ve made great strides, accomplished important goals, and overcome many challenges. But for others, reflecting on the past year can feel wearisome, filled with regret and disappointment. Here are some quotes to help you look up instead of…

10 Lessons I’ve Learned from 2015

December is usually the time of year when people get a little more introspective, reflecting on the past year and all the lessons that came with it, in preparation for the New Year. So here are 10 lessons that 2015 has taught me. Hopefully they resonate with you. 1. Be solution-focused.  Some people are naturally…